I made a mistake
I have been a financial advisor for 3 years. I never really wanted to do this job. I let myself be guided by chance. All I wanted was a job and I jumped at the opportunity. At first, I proved myself and produced results, but soon I lost confidence in myself. I did not endure the commercial rivalry with my colleagues. I feel disabled, devalued and I can not get to people anymore. I feel bad, I am ashamed. Changing jobs, I'm considering it, but I do not know what I would like to do or what else I could do. Anne, 29
It's not easy to realize that we've made a mistake. On the one hand, your current professional activity does not allow you to flourish, for reasons x and y, which are certainly in part those you advance and partly certainly more complex.
On the other hand, to this daily suffering in this work, is added the feeling of failure of not having chosen what suited you, and the feeling of insecurity linked to the prospect of change. In short, you are going through a professional crisis after your first job. To be frequent, this crisis, which corresponds to the end of the illusions that one made oneself on the world of work, is not less painful.
What I want to tell you, Anne, is that no job is worth the damage. It's just a job. If it does not suit you, change it. Either to do the same job in an environment that suits you better, with less competition, fewer sharks, less commercial pressure, more human relations than in this very hard business of financial advisor. Either straight to resume studies (you are only 29 years old) and change lanes to choose one that really suits you.
It is very precious, a failure: it allows us to face our limits, and to know that we are on the wrong track. You took this position for food reasons, no need to blame you, it was at the time the least bad decision. What's interesting is that at the beginning, you are doing well. So when did things begin to deteriorate? What exactly happened? You put everything on the back of your difficulty to go to others, but know that there are commercial "hunters", specialized in snatching (this is the case of the famous "financial advisers") and also commercial "breeders", whose job is to establish long-term relationships of trust with customers who appreciate and value them.
It seems to me that you could think about adding value to your business experience by moving towards a more "soft" sales process, where you do not disturb the customer but where, on the contrary, they serve them. Take your time to take stock, a career is not built on precipitation and before age 30, zigzags are a source of value.