Bombings: recovering after the shock

Yet, at the same time, some people who have not not directly exposed to the attacks currently experiencing difficulties to come out of a certain daze. To move forward, as they know, life goes on. How to explain this reaction?

Hélène Romano : We are currently in a transition phase. We have all been, by force of images, confronted with death, with the horror of hostage-taking. With different levels, with or without blur, live or not. But death has prowled everywhere: in families, in offices, in schools. Some communities - journalistic, Jewish, police - were all the more affected, as one or more of them were shot dead. Their anxieties are totally justified. When the tragedy of Pau happened, for example (two nurses had been beheaded), there were massive projections throughout the hospital and over time.

The reactions we all had in the first week - reactions of fear, dread, anxiety, terror, and especially insecurity - are perfectly legitimate. And past the moment of horror, when we take control, there is indeed a passage a little complicated, a kind of airlock. This is important, even if it is difficult to accept and understand, and it does not translate in the same way in one and the other. I think we should not "psychiatrize" this time. In other words, we must be able to recognize the reality of our reactions. The mistake would be to tell people, as some politicians have done publicly, that you should not be afraid. It would be as if nothing had happened and psychically, it is bearable. On the contrary, in the face of events, he is very well adapted to being afraid, very well adapted to being angry, very adapted to being sad during the first weeks, even the first months.

How to best live this transition? To get back in motion?

Hélène Romano : In schools, or in companies for example, when a person dies or kills himself, there is a fluttering phase and we see that these are the rituals collective - the time of recollection, the burial of the body, the homage - which allow, progressively, to allow oneself to move on to something else. To go from death to life.

Each of us is going to live that time differently, each of us will set up our rituals. For example, maybe some people will not be able to remove the "I'm Charlie" image from their Facebook profile because they feel like Charlie is disappearing once again.But everything depends on why they put it. For those who have chosen it in solidarity with the journalists killed, it will make sense to withdraw it once past burials. Those who put it to defend the freedom of expression, on the contrary, prefer to keep it, because that will make sense for them. We must accept that everyone has their way of living that and not judge it.

But this in-between is also something positive: it is an opportunity to experience solidarity, to live together. The rallies and Sunday's march are proof of this.


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